Like any relationship, though, finding your match is exciting and well worth the wait.

What would probably surprise Western romantics the most is the fact that this is not the mother of a young Vietnamese girl in some rural village.

This woman interviewed for an article on love and marriage among the Vietnamese living in the United States, and the marriage she was arranging for her daughter who is a professional woman with a career.

These betrothed children, unless they move from the village for work or some other reason, almost always end up marrying the person their parents pick.

However, the idea of "love" as westerners think of is not factored into the arrangement.

When it comes to love, many Vietnamese prefer the traditional methods of relationships that have lasted for hundreds, if not thousands of years.

Of course there are many Vietnamese living all over the world who have adopted other methods of courtship similar to the West.

(In small villages like the one in Ha Nam where I was born, dating hasn't changed much in the past 50 years.

Kids are sort of matched up at an early age, oftentimes jokingly, by relatives or friends.

Here, there are no dating services (at least none that my friends and I can spot), and young people still mostly meet the traditional way--through friends, school, family, work, and so on.